1. The Search for Ultimate Peace

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    2017-03-08 by Object of Contempt

    Rest. An end to the hopelessness. Ultimate peace. So many euphemisms for the same desperate action to end all actions. …
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  2. Crazy in Love : Part 2 — Emphasis on Love

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    2017-02-20 by Object of Contempt

    What is love? Of all questions, that seems like a no-brainer, doesn’t it? It’s something we learn about though our …
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  3. Crazy in Love : Part 1 — Emphasis on Crazy

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    2017-02-07 by Object of Contempt

    Emotional abuse, psychological abuse, covert abuse, intimacy anorexia… they overlap in multiple ways.  The tactics and the effects on the …
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  4. Provocation, Happiness, and Numbness

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    2016-12-01 by Object of Contempt

    In a normal relationship, closeness and reconciliation happens by being open about our hurts and flaws.  Not so with an …
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  5. One of the Coldest Days of the Year — My Anniversary

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    2016-12-01 by Object of Contempt

    I have been useless and in bed all day.  It’s the the 27th anniversary of my wedding.  We are still …
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  6. Intersections — Abuse in the Context of Church, Family, and Culture

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    2016-11-29 by Object of Contempt

    I sat in a smallish, crowded room with approximately 10-12 other men.  They were there to “discipline” me.  My wife …
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  7. Isolation “Sucks”

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    2016-11-25 by Object of Contempt

    I’ve tried to write since the last post over three weeks ago.  I’m still around, but I’m struggling.  Mostly,  it’s …
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  8. Self-Esteem, Self-Love, Dignity (part 1) — Contempt Destroys

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    2016-10-29 by Object of Contempt

    Like so many other victims of emotional abuse,  it took me a very long time to see through the abuse …
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  9. Gatekeeping — A Covert Method of Control

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    2016-10-14 by Object of Contempt

    Stereotypes… they are so useful and frustrating at the same time.  I confess that I frequently get frustrated with the …
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  10. Projection — How Abusers and Victims Both Use It

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    2016-10-11 by Object of Contempt

    Emotional abusers employ projection regularly. Actually, we all do. Projection isn’t wrong in and of itself, it is part of …
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  11. In Want of Hope and Love in the Midst of Blame

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    2016-10-09 by Object of Contempt

    Never have I felt so close to emotional annihilation. I have never felt so close to losing my children. I …
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  12. Falling Apart — Need Prayer

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    2016-10-04 by Object of Contempt

    I hate writing this kind of post. Sometimes I just need someone to listen, and that makes me feel like …
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  13. Question — Do Wives Know Their Own Strength?

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    2016-09-20 by Object of Contempt

    Instead of the ordinary post, today I would like to ask a sincere question.  Women are especially encouraged to answer, …
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  14. Family in Turmoil

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    2016-08-17 by Object of Contempt

    One of my sons was very angry with me. He thinks I’m unfair to his mother. The nature of the …
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  15. Truth and Love — Scapegoats Crave Both (Nothing Mentally Ill About That)

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    2016-08-16 by Object of Contempt

    The scapegoat of a narcissistic abuser commonly receives all the more abuse because this victim knows or tells the dangerous, …
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