2016-09-20 by Object of Contempt
Instead of the ordinary post, today I would like to ask a sincere question. Women are especially encouraged to answer, but men are welcome too, naturally.
The question is this: How aware are women of their ability to hurt a man, particularly their husband?
My opinion, and I think the vast majority of men would agree, is that a husband is particularly vulnerable to some things a woman can do. I suspect women are aware of it, although I wonder how much they understand how deep those wounds can go. In a relationship with an emotionally abusive woman, the husband will likely not crumble right away and so it may appear that he wasn’t hurt. His responses may be borne out of good will at first and desire to forgive an intractable woman. Depression at some point will come into the equation, and he may appear to have simply become lazy. The injury to his confidence and his spirit in general will eventually get worse to the point where he will give up, even if he isn’t able to to leave. Throw in a false accusation, even just a “he never hits me but he scares me” accusation, and that can devastate a man.
Interestingly enough, I ran numerous searches and came up basically empty. A wife has the power to destroy her husband. She can crush his will and his spirit. Straightforward statements like that are very rare. It may be that no one believes it, or more likely that no one thinks it’s important because it is “so rare.”
It would seem that all the many wives in good marriages must be aware of their destructive ability to some degree. The careful avoidance of injurious acts implies that they know <em>something</em> about it.
So… what do you think? Am I on the right track? How aware are women of their ability to hurt their husbands, especially by way of withholding love, general passive-aggression, and contempt?